NORWAY-The Dark Side

Caspian

By Steven Bennett

This is Caspian, six months old, sleeping peacefully. This photo was taken today at 1.58pm. Moments after this photo was taken, police with Norway’s CPS enter a family’s home and cruelly take Nadia’s baby away. The Norwegian police said they took the baby because nobody knew where the birth certificate was.

This is the very dark side of Norway, which Norwegian authorities do not want you to know about. It’s a total horror for many young families in Norway. Interestingly, the police commented that they had been listening in on the phone conversations – so I guess, this new anti-terror law is already in affect in Norway, but sadly it’s being used to kidnap little innocent babies from their mothers’ arms, instead of catching real terrorists.

In defense of the Norwegian police, they only carry out orders given by Norway’s CPS, barnevernet, but it must be pretty gruesome and horrible for those policemen who have honour and integrity to carry out such acts. They also commented that the family were very caring and barnevernet had shown them no court ruling permission to take Caspian.

They took little Caspian while he was sleeping peacefully in his bed. Barnevernet had no county board ruling or authority to take this little baby. No help was offered beforehand at all to Nadia. No young family is safe from Norway’s system of error and terror (Norway’s CPS) for young families – Absolutely No One!

If Norwegians don’t stand up now, then I really wonder where the moral ground has gone in this country. It would seem that there is no moral ground and ethics have just been thrown out of the window as well. Norwegian families also need help from abroad!!!

Brutal, sick and very sad.

Norway’s Horror Homes for Mothers

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from Steven Bennett:

Synnøve Johansen is a Norwegian mother of three children. She ended up under the spotlight of Norway’s CPS (barnevernet). This is her story:

“I was forced to ‘voluntarily’ enroll at Vilde Mothers Home in Horten when my daughter was barely two days old. Norway’s CPS, barnevernet, came unannounced into the delivery room

with a contract I had to sign there and then, otherwise, they would have taken my newborn baby straight away. So, I signed it. If one could call this voluntary – in this case CPS and I have strongly different views on what the term voluntary means.

We arrived in the evening of the second day after the birth. We were placed in a dirty room with very little furniture. It was cold and I felt quite alone in the world. No one had told me what I had to deal with, so it was just a coincidence that I brought with me my own bedding and towels. Nobody had prepared me either for a stay of 13 weeks – I had to be there – no choice.

Fear

The first week you are there, you are lucky enough to be in maternity. That is to say that you are then left to yourself with fear inside the dirty apartment with your newborn child. There is no one serving warm soup or asking you if you need a rest after three nights in row of crying, but you avoid at least to follow the compulsory scheme which consists of a singing group, kitchen service where you cook for residents and personnel, washing common areas, baking and being ‘investigated’ by an expert.

The only thing you need to do or stand up for, is when someone from the staff will see that you care, breast feed and bathe your child. One gets the message that they should only observe you and your baby in the first month, so it means that you will not be given any feedback about what they think they observe. So during a whole month you dread if you will be labeled as preliminary good mum or not. Those days are very long. I cried a lot, like women who have just given birth often do, and I struggled a lot with fear and had troubles sleeping because of how fearful I felt.

Since, I had recently given birth and being a woman, on one of the first evenings we were there, I asked the night watch if she could cradle my little child who was upset while I was taking a quick shower. The harsh and cold answer I received was a question back to why I had not showered earlier in the day. Certainly, most new mothers will understand, that women who have just given birth, bleed the first few weeks. It is actually quite desirable to wash both morning and evening. I learned very quickly that one should not bother in the evening in a Mothers Home with such things.

In fact, I learned quite fast, that a Mothers Home you were not meant to be yourself. Here, you need to ‘sell a package’ that fits into a narrow Mothers Home view of what a ‘good enough mum’ is. There are not many mothers who are ‘good enough mums’. Around eight out of ten mothers lose their baby at Vilde. The statistics were given to us by the employees themselves.

Then comes ‘the working week’ – so you are finished now with your postnatal period and now it’s your duty to attend the singing group, the baking, the cooking, the washing, the conversations and the ‘investigation’ of the so-called and self-proclaimed experts on your child.

For it is they who know what your child needs and who supposedly know what’s best for your child – not you, who has carried around your baby for nine months inside of you. You have to fill in each day, how much time the child is asleep, when he wakes up, when he eats, gets a new nappy, cries, is quiet, is upset and the like. This was done three days in a row, twice during our stay.

The ‘Assessment’ consists of being examined every week about how well you know your child, and about what answer you give in every conceivable (and inconceivable) situation that could arise from the birth until the baby matures. Moreover, both you and your child have their IQ tested. It is important to have high IQ if you are to be approved as a ‘good enough mother’. It is certainly very important to have already thought out how your child will be when he will be at least 25 years old, while the child is still four weeks old – everything is noted by the ‘expert’, and filmed, so it can be used (against you) later.

Having kitchen duties means that you should learn to cook and bake like any good housewife should, for it is understood that you are not capable of this. Moreover, one should learn to put into a dishwasher and empty it, learn to wash benches, kitchen cabinets and the floor.

The washing must be done at night, after supper, and this around the most difficult time of day for a mum with an infant. So, while you’re washing – because private foundations save namely what they can in terms of money to give more profit to private investors and therefore no cleaning personnel is employed – one of the staff monitors your activity and makes a note in your journal if you wash ‘right’ or ‘wrong’.

It was also noted how well enough you could safeguard your child while you washed. The room you stay in will also be inspected every Wednesday, so they can monitor whether you wash good enough in there too. They write down how often you wash your clothes, if you look well kept or not to their standard, if you have enough eye contact with your child and staff, and about how you feel inside you.

Everything you do and say will be questioned

They already know this without having to ask you anything. Everything you do and say will be questioned, and they could even make an experienced mum like me very insecure and afraid. Nothing is good enough, and the criticism I received was partly because I was carrying my child too much. Also, I didn’t shield her enough against the noise, I kept her in a health blanket at all times and I washed her bottom too much when she needed it.

Lunch and dinner is eaten together with the staff. That’s when we are all a big happy family, where there are no obstacles, like for example confidentiality; the staff can do ‘counselling’ to some mums while the other mums are present. The ‘Problems’ of the mother are pointed out, and then the poor mother, as a compromise, has to put up with being corrected and criticised in front of all the other mothers.

It is mandatory at 5pm ‘observation time’, where we mums need to lie on the floor with our kids and chat, while staff sit around us and watch. This is to see if the child responds to us well enough, and if we interact well with the child. Any suggestion to the fact that the child doesn’t see enough of the mother is interpreted as the child ‘consistently rejects the mother’.

Each family admitted has its own room. We’re not allowed to be with others inside the room. This must be carried out in a living room where the wall is a glass wall, so the staff can see at any time what we do, or overhear what you talk about. For there is a lot at Vilde which one is not allowed to talk about.

What were we really doing there?

What were we really doing there? The experience is one of a negative kind with the child care services – it’s about how scared one can be. Outwardly, one should be grateful for being so lucky to be allowed in there – that’s what we are told in the intake meeting. It was outrageous how much money was being spent on just you and your child. The price per day at Vilde was for me and my baby girl, about 4.500kr. Multiply that by one hundred days.

The children are taken almost the entire day. From 8am in the morning until 10pm in the evening. There is no warning, but one learns eventually that when the place is suddenly flooded with child welfare people whom one has not seen before, and then you are told to go into your room, you then know a child is being taken away from his/her mother.

Then you sit there in horror and wonder who it will be next, while your heart beats so fast and hard that it’s almost impossible to breathe. The only thing you hear is a mum who cries, screams or shouts out her despair and pain. And, so the child is taken away by the CPS and the mother has to stay and wash the room that she stayed in with her child. It is expected of her to do this – She must stay and clean up.

Nobody talks to you about what just happened afterwards. No one asks you if you are OK, or afraid, or if you need to talk to someone about what happened. It’s just like it happens in everyday life for mothers in Vilde, so it is assumed and expected of you to endure this.

Traumatized

Eventually you learn to ignore feelings. You become colder, more cynical and numb. You need it to survive. The only thing you need to focus on is to survive and pray to the Almighty that your child might not be too traumatized by being there. For it is not in the child’s best interest that the mum is terrified and stressed every day, every hour, every minute, around the clock for up to one hundred days.

Most mothers there are so stressed that they lose their breast milk. But the employees at Vilde do not care about that, they would rather provide you with free replacement milk and this way it’s easier to take the babies away from the mothers who do not breastfeed. Do our authorities really think that this is in ‘the best interest of the child’? Is this really a child’s best start in life, to have a terrified mum who fights for her life and struggles with fear every day, every minute for 13 weeks?

Or could they actually imagine that the best start was at home – in their own homes, along with safe and older people where there is mutual trust, lots of empathy and understanding, and where the primary focus was that the mother could manage and this child could grow up where he belongs from the beginning?

But, by all means there was something good with Vilde also. Mostly we got another dinner, a soup, leftovers from the day before or a pizza. Sometimes, Tone or Kirsti the extra guards were at work. Then you could relax a bit, experience to be talked to like an ordinary human being with human rights, intrinsic value and as a mum who supposedly had knowledge and intelligence enough to talk about everyday topics that were interesting.

And, I met many wonderful, resourceful mums and dads who for one reason or another had been disgraced by what we in Norway call CPS – and I’m very happy that I got the opportunity to meet them. We comforted, listened and encouraged each other. Some are my friends to this day, even one year after.

Three mums and a dad were deprived of their children while I and my child was admitted to Vilde. A mum and a single father got to travel home with their sons. The rest of us were glad for their child’s sake, and wept for the unhappy mums and the dads who lost their children. We cried for those children who became a part of the sad statistics under CPS ‘care’.”

Finally, and thank God this mother could take her lovely baby daughter home again. And she even won her case against Norway’s CPS at the County Board. She was in the fortunate ca.10% of mothers who leave the Mothers Home with their child. This in spite of the ‘expert’ from Vilde saying this about the mum’s daughter, “It is very important that (daughter’s name) has a good relationship to CPS, for her children will be again in childcare one day.” Her daughter was at this time seven months old.

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Norway’s Evil Barnevernet

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A Norwegian mother’s thoughts about Norway’s CPS, Barnevernet.

 

Like many Norwegians, I am naturally afraid to criticize CPS. But now, I feel that this silence has become unbearable! There are stories in the media and social media that makes me shiver!

Families tell horror story after horror story of children being taken out of the home without warning and about children who will visit/meet their families and are then not allowed. Many of these stories give a picture of everyday situations that are frowned upon and it is twisted so that other people outside of the situation suspect neglect or future neglect and then the children are relocated by force because of it.

As the CPS currently works in Norway, no one can feel safe. Not the most appropriate mother or father will have a chance if CPS comes into play. Many people I have talked to in the past say that fear of the CPS is a normal part of every parent’s life. But what on earth is normal about that?

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Norway’s Politicians and Government

We live in a safe country, we feel lucky to live here and we believe that the people we have chosen to make the important decisions for us do so from the same ethical platform as us. But do they?

Shouldn’t we know if we are considered to be good parents or not? This current horror for so many in Norway is debilitating. How can one be assured that an inquiry to the school nurse or kindergarten for help if one needs it, will not lead to the removal of our children? I want my family and my children to be safe, but how do I keep them safe from the child protection services in Norway?

Most foreigners in Norway are tired of their children not living up to the ‘Norwegian Standard,’ and being confiscated as a result of this, for trivial reasons by the Norwegian Government.

Lithuanian television reported that the likelihood of Norwegian parents giving birth to well functional and healthy new citizens was placed well under 50%. When the rest of the world hears the words, Norwegian CPS, Barnevernet, they think of a Totalitarian/Draconian society, harking back to the days of Nazi Germany.

They try to understand what is happening here in Norway. Why do we steal their children? There must be some kind of a reason?

Norway’s State Funded Media

It’s not often that Norwegian media covers issues concerning child protection. Little has been said about these demonstrations, and even less has been heard of the demonstration in Oslo.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-WihpeR5KPA  Oslo Protests

Thousands of people are enrolled or support the protest parade that will walk towards Parliament to show their distrust in this system. There are parents and grandparents who want their little ones home or would like more time with them. There are teachers and kindergarten teachers who see mistakes being done by Norway’s CPS system. Big mistakes!! Why do the media keep silent about these stories? Is it because of fear, patriotism or the financial support it receives from the government?

Schools and Kindergartens

In schools and kindergartens there is a rule that says you must notify CPS if there is something peculiar about a child or the home situation of a child. If a child appears to have been exposed to something, it is better to report once too much than once too little. If what they see actually is a sign that something really is wrong, the educators have not done their job if they have not reported it to the CPS.

If it later turns out that the child lives under neglect or abuse at home, one little incident reported could have saved the child from a terrible childhood. And of course, no one wants children to live under serious neglect and abuse.

We all remember the Christoffer case, where the little boy was abused to death by his stepfather. Children should have and are entitled to a safe and a good upbringing where they receive love and affection and the opportunities they need to become independent adults without major scars in their souls!

All adults with a normally functioning empathy will endeavour to ensure children have this. I am one of those who could not let injustice against children happen.

It’s possible that in schools and kindergartens, that children are neglected. As long as society carries on as it is, children spend more time in state institutions than in their own homes. Therefore, it is likely that what children experience in school or in kindergarten will have equal potential to build them up and tear them down psychologically as their family situation. This angle is never considered. Could it be that what a child needs is to change schools to be protected as CPS originally was meant to protect them?
What happens all too often in Norway these days, is that a concern is mistakenly turned into a lot of action behind closed doors. Behind families and the educator’s backs, decisions are made into what we all find so unbelievable, the transfer of children into foster care or institutions – and this has increased tremendously over the last few years.

The families are not offered help in any form. They get a sudden and ice cold inquiry that the child will be removed or has already been moved away from their home without parental knowledge.CHILDfl

How has this become the norm in how child welfare “helps” the families they approach? How can so many parents be unfit to take care of their own children? Is maternal instinct about to perish? Has there been a genetic change during the past decade that makes average parents into poorer caregivers than their predecessors?

What are the requirements that say you are a well-functioning caregiver/parent? What is the criterion on the CPS list? How can a normally functioning person with children feel safe from sudden confiscations in Norway? Are the parents considered at all to be responsible in the first place?

One hears of many distortions in the Norwegian CPS. There are cases where something should have clearly been done to protect a child. There are rough examples of neglect in our little Norway. But it isn’t normal!

Could it be that the people who are involved in child abuse and outright torture of children can easily carry this out because Barnevernet are so busy with their power struggles and legal fights with trivial cases, of taking innocent children from healthy families? FireShot Capture BARNEVERNETabduction_watchFireShot Capture BarnevernPolicech

Video of Norway’s CPS Agents at Work

Does CPS use their time and resources in so many wrong places that those who should have been seen can’t get their attention?

Why throw away time and resources to take parents into courtrooms and forcibly relocate their children where they could have corrected the errors by helping parents back on track so they can take care of their children themselves?

As a normally functioning parent everybody would wish to protect their children from everything that is bad, dangerous and wrong. They love their children and would have sacrificed their lives for them. All their money and resources go to ensure their children have a good future.

But, how do you know that you have done enough so that the State will not be able to point its finger at you? Has Norway become so rich, that the state creates problems to have something to do? Keeping people in pain and torment certainly creates an ongoing need for business.

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Does the number of toys in a room count more than the love of biological parents and family? Are leisure activities that cost money a demand? Are expensive branded clothes in the closet a requirement to be safe from child protection services? Does everyone have to have an au pair and a maid / housekeeper so that not a second of the day is free from enabling documentation and not a speck of dust to be found?

For there is another bias one hears about and sees: these factors are considered by the CPS. Any deficiencies in such category are recorded as negative traits in a family that is considered for neglect, while those same flaws are considered normal with the foster parents or emergency homes where children are placed.

Foster parents are met with understanding when they explain that the house is a little upside down when CPS makes a sudden pitstop, while a parent of a relocated child is criticised and considered unfit to look after their child. Therefore, a written list, a kind of ‘what’s the norm’, would have been helpful. How can anyone know that they are within proper standards through the trivialities of life if CPS should emerge out of the blue?

As the requirements in the Norwegian society grows, one parent should earn the amount for two people. At least one should have a career, the kids should have designer clothes and expensive status symbols, they should have activities every afternoon and they should attend socially in all contexts.

In addition, families must be harmonious at all times, stress levels will not make its mark and pedagogy should always be the basis for every decision in every moment. The slightest miss is a sign that one is not good enough. The pressure on Norwegian parents is huge! There is not much needed to not keep up with the “crowd”, and small deviations can supposedly turn into someone reporting you to the Norwegian CPS, Barnevernet. Is that how Norway should be?

Should families live in constant fear of not standing out as super parents and the fear of losing custody of our children? Is there room for speaking out against injustice without CPS attacking you and destroying you in the process? Is it allowed to question the impartiality of CPS? Is it true that a post like this will mean that I will also get the status of a possible future neglect in the lives of my children?

I call for more transparency. I request access to cases where parents talk about their experiences, but where the CPS need not defend itself. Why are there so many complaints of Norwegian child welfare without the CPS being forced to answer? What is their agenda?

Can they be kind enough to help the Norwegians outside the CPS system understand so that viseos that can be viewed online about Norway’s CPS are not so scary? Many videos about Norwegian CPS have circulated on the web and it’s not without reason that lines have been drawn, comparing Norway to Nazi Germany. Give us faith back in Barnevernet as a functioning organ, paid for with our tax money, with the sole purpose of serving the best interest of the child. Currently, it’s in the best interest of Barnevernet, the parents and children’s voices are not respected or very rarely heard.

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